The Benefits of Being Yourself

It’s been said that “God don’t make no mistakes”. If ever there was a true statement, this would be one.

So if The Creator doesn’t make mistakes, then why do so many act as though they are just that? It’s because they have

succumbed to lie that if they don’t look, act or believe a certain way than they are not acceptable or good enough.

This belief usually leads to a person getting in lock step with what is popular versus what is right and fulfilling to the individual.

In turn people who are not strong enough to be themselves, overtime live their lives according to what’s best for them as determined by others.

That’s why it is critical that we be true to ourselves and do what we personally desire to do, as long as what we want to do is non destructive, morally correct

and rewarding.

It takes courage to be yourself. Especially if doing so causes a person to run the risk of being out of “the loop’ and outside of the group. But remember, happiness

is the true reward. Our level of happiness is determined by our level of fulfillment that we experience on our jobs, in our relationships and other important areas of our lives.

In addition to our personal satisfaction, we must remember that others are watching and waiting to see if we are going to be true to ourselves or not. When we do we provide

inspiration and courage to the timid to rock that new natural, go vegetarian, wear white in winter, start a family after 40 or commit other harmless forms of human expression.

So go ahead and thumb your nose at unreasonable conformity. Stop being afraid of rocking the boat. At the end of this life have no regrets or apologies for being yourself.

For it is better to have lived a life that you loved living, than to have not lived it at all. Enjoy!

Clarence Thomas, Jr. is the founder of Visionary Communications. The company specializes in public and media relations, strategic marketing, freelance journalism, photography and event planning. He is also the supportive, loving husband of the creator of this blog site. Contact Clarence at or

“Take Me or Leave Me: Natural Hair and All”

What do the fashion runways of Paris; the streets of LA, New York and Berlin; the covers of major magazines; the stages of many music concerts; and the art houses of urban centers throughout world have in common? If you answered millions of citizens rocking kinky and curly tops…then you got it right.

There is a hair revolution(change)going on in case you haven’t noticed. A horde of the  planet’s population has decided that they are cool with what they showed up with at birth.  

 This expression of pride and confidence is liberating for the wearer and the rest of us. Those choosing not to alter their kinky coifs by relaxing it or camouflaging it in some other manner, provide inspiration to observers that lack confidence in themselves and operate in a perpetual state of fear of being “different”.

Black women especially are the unique beneficiary of this explosion of expression. Bound by western standards of beauty for centuries, sisters are reclaiming their identities through Afros, locks, press n curls, twists and other forms of natural hairdos.

This reclamation by Earth’s original woman has become a means by which a once disenfranchised, oppressed and unaccepted group, can fight the powers of misinformation, public perception and corporate boardrooms through the simple choice of wearing what the good Lord gave them.

None of us are our hair. We are soooo much more than that. And that’s why the way one chooses to wear their hair really comes down to an individual having the right to wear their hair in a way that makes them feel most happy and comfortable. Color, texture and style choices truly are left up the individual; including relaxers.   

But natural hair wearers are to be commended for their courage, since this particular look has been demonized by the larger culture and negated in the minds of those brainwashed into to beliving that natural isn’t beautiful or appropriate.

So kudos to you…happy to be nappy crew. Thanks for inspiring us to be ourselves. By saying to the world, “Take Me or Leave Me: Natural Hair and All”, you have “flipped the script” and put the ball back into your court.

The simplistic but profound decision to wear natural hair has turned into an awesome form of personal empowerment for the wearer and the admirer. Thus leveling the playing field which in turn will ultimately benefit us all. 


Clarence Thomas, Jr.

Clarence Thomas, Jr. is the founder of  the Macon, Georgia based communications freelance service Visionary Communications. The company specializes in writing, public and media relations, event planning, press coverage and strategic marketing. Contact Visionary Communications at 478-952-8218 or